Wednesday, June 29, 2005

Two Years Ago...

Two Years Ago today I married the MOST wonderful man. I gazed into his eyes and promised to love him no matter what. We promised that we'd be together for better or for worse. I gazed into his eyes and was filled with wonder that I was going to spend the rest of my life with him.

Since then, we've certainly seen a good amount of 'better' and 'worse.' TOGETHER we've lived in three different states, established three different places to call home. He started his journey in the Navy, and we endured the separation of Basic Training. I lived through a few months of, "The Job from Hell." We visited beaches, and forts, and beautiful gardens, and state parks. We've lost loved ones, and welcomed new babies. We ourselves welcomed into our lives the most beautiful little girl either of us have ever beheld. Andy reminded me of all of this in a beautiful email he sent today.

That's a lot of living to squeeze into two years. Not all of our first two years was happy... but through it all we've both had an abundance of joy in the knowledge that we were loved by the other. I don't think I can adequately express the feeling of being able to come back to the solid fact that I KNOW that my husband loves me. I KNOW he thinks about me. I KNOW he's pulling for me.

We've had a lot of 'apart time' in our short time together. But even through that 'apart time' we were TOGETHER. That is so hard to explain, but so very true. Thoughts of him are always at the forefront of my mind. Each moment I experience is somehow shared with him, even if it's only through my thinking, "Andy would love this." He is something solid for me in a world that has been and is far from certain.

We are so very, very blessed. I am still so in love. I think I always will be.

Saturday, June 25, 2005

Mary Poppins

It's a good thing Carolyn has decided she likes at least parts of Mary Poppins. I'm suddenly obsessed with it. I'm not sure why. Shortly before we left to come back here, I decided I wanted to see it again, so I decided to buy it for our 'beginning of deployment/detachment/long darned separation present.'

It's become a little escape of sorts for me. If I'm feeling edgy, or sad, or just want out for a little bit, I put it on. I get the songs in my head and sing them to Carolyn all day.

Why Mary Poppins? It's not deep really... It has no significant voice speaking into my current experience. But somehow, it is a comfort. It keeps me steady. It keeps me singing. It keeps me sane.

Maybe it's that spoonful of sugar? I'm not sure. But I do love Mary Poppins!

Sunday, June 19, 2005

Father's Day, Penguins, Bunnies, and Splashes

Today was a really, really sweet day. I keep breathing in the peace of the goodness of it.

It's Father's Day. Andy's first. Dad's first as a Grandpa. It was really sad not to be with Andy, but Carolyn and I celebrated him today too. We looked at pictures of him, watched "The Daddy Story Video," talked about him, and prayed for him. Grandpa was celebrated too. Carolyn gave him a shirt that said, "World's Greatest Grandpa" which he promptly put on, and Carolyn wore her, "Grandpa's Little Peanut" onesie. I made Roast Beef for him (my first Roast Beef cooking experience ever and it turned out pretty darned good if I do say so myself), and he seemed to take the day to relax and just be. He said it was most memorable Father's Day ever.

Carolyn was positively irresistble today. Which was good because she was also very anti-nap. She was full of giggles and sweetness though. We watched Mary Poppins again (That was our beginning of deployment present to ourselves). Carolyn has never shown a lot of interesnt in the T.V. aside from the Daddy video when it catches her eye... But when the "Jolly Holiday" part came on and the Penguins came out and danced with Bert, she was positivley TRANSFIXED. She smiled and I was holding her so she was standing up and she bopped a little bit. She just loved it. Now I'm not going to start plopping her down in front of the T.V. on a regular basis, but it was just so cute to see. She also giggles during the, "Love to Laugh" song.

Today was also bath day. Up til today, bath's were kind of iffy for her. She would cry at first and then settle in and MIGHT enjoy herself by the end. Today, I no more than got her in her little tub and she was splashing up a storm. She got me soaked and all of the kitchen counter soaked as well. Boy did she have fun. I LOVE bath days because I get to use the lovely smelling Lavendar and Chammomile soap and lotion. She smells like heaven afterwards. I'm serious. I think I am convinced that when I get to Heaven it will smell like Carolyn after a bath and Chocolate Chip cookies.

But the best part of the day came after bath time. She got really fussy afterwards, and going outside almost always settles her down, so I grabbed a couple of books, and we went down to the pond to read. We got through one book, and she fussed a little more, so I nursed her. (I decided to try nursing outside after Anne Lamott said she did it in, Operating Instructions. It just sounded so romantic). She fell asleep and all was so peaceful... until a big black ant crawled into my sandal and bit me between my toes. I recovered though and we sat there some more. The bull frogs started to sing... Just one first--he was the concert master tuning up the orchestra. Soon a whole chorus of bull-frogs were singing to us. A few minutes later the crickets joined in too.

Carolyn finished nursing and we prayed together. We prayed for her Daddy first, and then for Mom... for our friends, and finally for ourselves. Much to my suprise I haven't cried a lot for all that is going on. But lately when I pray.... when I really get into the quiet spaces when talking to God, I do. And it's not a cry that aches. It's just an honest one. It's the result of talking to Abba in a real way about what is happening. And I feel so comforted afterward.

Funny thing about Carolyn... She is reteaching me all of these things of the spirit that I was afraid I'd unlearned. I find myself able to worship again, for the first time in years--even in song. I don't get tripped up in 'how to do it' or feel awkward about it... It just naturally flows out of me as I sing. It's the same thing with prayer. This little three month old baby is tutoring me in the spiritual disciplines. What a wonder!

So today was a sweet day of breathing in peacefulness. I love oasis days like today.

Friday, June 10, 2005

Two Sweet Weeks

It has been so wonderful for Carolyn and I to be here the last two weeks, even if we had to do a lot of packing to get our apartment into storage, and even if the Navy did go balistic over a pair of gloves. We've tried to squeeze every ounce of wonderful out of being together. We've even had some fun packing.

We got some good pictures of Ms. Carolyn in her Sailor dress one day when Daddy was wearing his Dress Whites. How could we resist that photo opportunity?

We've visited with friends back here when we had some spare moments. You can see that "Auntie" Jennie has some unique ideas about children's toys. Spoons work as well as anything though, and Carolyn did enjoy her toe excercises.

I don't have to tell you all that Carolyn and Andy have positively soaked in one another while they've had this time together. She sure is Daddy's little girl. It's one of the most amazing things in my life I think--seeing them together. I'm glad they had this time together. I'm glad we ALL had this time together.

Being the Three of Us Posted by Hello

Mommy and Carolyn Posted by Hello

A Sailor Girl and a Sailor Daddy Posted by Hello

Auntie Jennie is REALLY silly. She put a SPOON in Carolyn's toes! Posted by Hello

The first official unassisted roll-over!! Posted by Hello

Had to squeeze in some quality napping time Posted by Hello

Loving Daddy's kisses! Posted by Hello

Meeting Mom and Dad's Good Friends

While we were back in Illinois, Carolyn got to meet some of the Greenville college groupies. We had a good time with Jodie. We baked cookies, and sat around, and just enjoyed one another.

Kyle and Sarah came and spent a WHOLE WEEKEND with us (Delightful!). We also ate, and hung out, and of course there had to be some trivial pursuit time. Carolyn teamed up with Sarah to convince Kyle that 2008 is a really long time to wait for someone as lovable as a baby. I'm not sure he's convinced.

And I had to throw one in of Carolyn with her bunny.

Jodie came to visit! Posted by Hello

Hiding behind bunny Posted by Hello

A new chew toy... Posted by Hello

Carolyn got to meet Kyle and Sarah! Posted by Hello

Tuesday, June 07, 2005

Dust Bunnies...

Oh my... a Mommy phenomenon I sure never anticipated. Miss Carolyn gets these funny little things between her fingers and toes. I guess they are probably dead skin and fuzzies from her outfit and other cloth that she comes in contact with. They look like really, really small dust bunnies... Very strange.

Monday, June 06, 2005

Shake Rattle and Roll Over!!!

Ms. Carolyn is just growing like mad over here. She's so big, and so strong, and doing so much. Today she rolled over BY HERSELF. She'd landed on her belly before with a little nudge from me, but today it was ALL HER. She did it three or four times. Once she'd be up on her belly... well... the girl wanted to GO! She was trying SO HARD to crawl. You think I'm nuts. You think it's too early for her even to think of it. No... the girl wanted to crawl. I'm not sure but what she may be creeping soon. She still needs some more arm strength, but she's pushing hard with her little legs.

Even crazier (to me at least, maybe all kids do this), she bears weight on her legs. She loves to stand up. And if you hold her little arms, she'll actually walk her little feet forward.

She's growing so fast... She'll be three months tomorrow.

My baby can roll over!!!

Sunday, June 05, 2005

An FYI

This isn't my only Blog... I have a rougher kind of get-it-out type blog that I'd only gone public with anonymously before. It talks more about the deeper issues afoot right now. Feel free to check it out if you wish, or don't.

http://newwaylc.blogspot.com/

Wednesday, June 01, 2005

Cousins

While we were back we got to visit with Andy's sister, Crystal, and her family. My nephews are getting SO VERY BIG!!!

My nephews would NEVER rough-house in the living room. ;) Posted by Hello

Cousins are the best!!! Posted by Hello

There and Back Again

Well... If anyone is still reading after that long absence, I hope you'll enjoy the photos below. Carolyn and I spent the last month at first home with Gramma and Grandpa. Carolyn FINALLY got to meet her Gramma Caro, and also her Gramma K and some other special people.

Gramma Caro and Grampy Frank have of course spoiled her rotten already. They got her the coolest swing and bouncey seat ever and she just loved them.

Carolyn is also doing lots of fun new things. She talks A LOT now. I just love to hear her voice. She is working really hard on rolling over, and she is spending more and more time on her tummy (and learning slowly to enjoy that). She has grown SOO much.

It was good for us to be at first home, and good for my folks as well. I think Carolyn is the best medicine in the world for my Mama. Daddy said the other day that Carolyn was a 'very inspirational baby.' He's right. She helps us all to remember joy and hope and laughter--even on the toughest of days.

For now, Carolyn and I are back visiting with Andy. It was a difficult thing leaving to come back here, but now that we're here I see how very much we both needed to come back. Andy and Carolyn have taken right back up again. He makes her giggle more than anybody else in the world can. She just loves her Daddy. It is good for my heart for us to be the three of us for just a little while again.

We'll be back to first home in just two weeks, and then we'll be there at least until the end of Andy's time this go-around being a 'sailing sailor.'

Depending on when and if we get a new USB cable, there may be more pictures coming soon.

Carolyn enjoying her swing at Gramma and Grandpa's Posted by Hello

Doing lots of new things! Posted by Hello

Meeting Gramma K Posted by Hello

Gramma Caro and Carolyn finally meet. They like each other a lot. Posted by Hello